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<ol><li>Summary:  Join Dr. Peter as he explains how trauma impacts our bodies, through the lens of polyvagal theory. Through quotes, examples, questions for reflection and experiential exercises, Dr. Peter walks you through a current understanding of how large a role our bodies have in our experience of trauma.  </li><li>Introduction  <ol><li>I am Dr. Peter Malinoski, clinical psychologist, bringing to you, my listener the best of psychology and human formation and harmonizing it with our Catholic Faith</li></ol></li><li> <ol><li>This is the Interior Integration for Catholics podcast -- you are part of it, right here, right now and I am glad to be with you.  This podcast is part of our broader outreach, Souls and Hearts bringing the best of psychology grounded in a Catholic worldview to you and the rest of the world through our website soulsandhearts.com -- we have vibrant communities, we have courses, we have podcasts, we have blogs and shows, all kinds of resources at soulsandhearts.com, check it out.  </li></ol></li><li> <ol><li>Trauma.  Last month, we began a whole series of episodes on trauma -- such an important topic  <ol><li>Quote from trauma therapist and research Peter Levine:  “Trauma is perhaps the most avoided, ignored, belittled, denied, misunderstood, and untreated cause of human suffering.” – Peter Levine</li></ol></li><li> </li></ol></li><li> <ol><li>We started with an overview of the best of the secular understandings of trauma.  In that first episode in the series, number 88, we got into the definitions of trauma and attachment injuries, and we dived into the experience of trauma -- what trauma is like.  </li></ol></li><li> <ol><li>That sets us up for today's episode, number 89 -- Your Trauma, Your Body:  Protection vs. Connection.  Today, we are getting into the body's response to trauma, really focusing in on what happens in our nervous system.  What happens in the brain, what happens in our spinal cord and our nerves and throughout our bodies  <ol><li>We will be especially tuning into our own nervous system.   </li></ol></li><li> </li></ol></li><li> <ol><li>There's going to be some vocabulary here, I will help you with that. There will some big words, but I am going to walk you through the concepts and make them easier to understand. </li></ol></li><li> <ol><li>In the past two decades we have learned so much about how trauma impacts the body -- the physiological effects of trauma <ol><li>So what is physiological?  Physiology  <ol><li>the branch of biology that deals with the normal functions of living organisms and their parts  <ol><li>organ systems, individual organs, cells, and right down to the level of biomolecules</li></ol></li><li> <ol><li>The parts within us carry out the chemical, electrical and physical functions within our bodies.  Our bodies are living systems</li></ol></li><li> </li></ol></li><li> <ol><li>Put simply, physiology is the study of how the human body works</li></ol></li><li> <ol><li>Today we are looking at how trauma impacts physiology -- how trauma affects the workings of our body, especially in our nervous system.  </li></ol></li><li> </li></ol></li></ol></li><li> <ol><li>Lots of misconceptions out there.  <ol><li>Old way of understanding stress -- what I learned in graduate school.  Most prominent.  <ol><li>You were either stressed or not stressed</li><li>fight or flight or rest and digest</li><li>Stress on or stress off.  No nuance, very simple way of understanding</li></ol></li><li>Today, we are going to do much better than that, go much deeper than that.  </li></ol></li></ol></li><li>Review: Definition of Trauma <ol><li>Integrated Listening Systems <a href="https://integratedlistening.com/what-is-trauma/">website</a>:  Trauma is the response to a deeply distressing or disturbing event that overwhelms an individual’s ability to cope, causes feelings of helplessness, diminishes their sense of self and their ability to feel a full range of emotions and experiences.</li><li>from Duros and Crowley 2014:  …what happens to a person where this is either too much too soon, too much too long, or not enough for too long.  </li><li>From Stephen Porges:  Trauma is a chronic disruption of connectedness.  </li></ol></li><li>Most clients come to therapy for one main reason.  One main, overarching reason.  They are dysregulated.  What does that mean?  They are poorly regulated.  <ol><li>Overwhelmed with emotion or on the other side, Emotional shutdowns, numbing out</li><li>Can't control their thoughts, so distracted, intrusive thoughts, ruminations, racing thoughts, obsessions, disorientation, having a sense that their thoughts are no longer under control</li><li>Impulses -- rising up</li><li>Intrusive memories</li><li>They are having trouble keeping it together</li><li>High reactivity</li><li>Mood swings</li><li>Anger management issues</li><li>Intense depression</li><li>Feeling unreal, depersonalized, not myself, identity issues -- don't know who I am</li><li>Feeling fragile, vulnerable, about to fall apart</li><li>In one word, they come in to therapy because they can't manage their lives well anymore and they feel losing control and that makes them feel unsafe and scared.  </li></ol></li><li>Polyvagal theory -- <ol><li>Great discoveries in recent years about the vagus nerve.  <ol><li>The vagus nerve is responsible for the regulation of internal organ functions, such as digestion, heart rate, and respiratory rate, as well as vasomotor activity, and certain reflex actions, such as coughing, sneezing, swallowing, and vomiting</li><li>10th of 12 cranial nerves -- On Old Olympus Towering Top, a Finn and German Viewed Some Hops.  Memorizing the cranial nerves</li><li>Longest nerve of the body, and the most complex, it branches into 11 different directions.  </li><li>Responsible for slowing down all the organs from the next down to the colon.  Parasympathetic response -- slowing or shutting down.  </li><li>Responsible  <ol><li>Heart rate</li></ol></li><li> <ol><li>Digestion</li></ol></li><li> <ol><li>Breathing</li></ol></li><li> <ol><li>Sweating</li></ol></li><li> <ol><li>Motor functions for the muscles needed for swallowing and speech</li></ol></li><li> <ol><li>Reflex actions, such as coughing, sneezing swallowing and vomiting</li></ol></li><li> </li></ol></li></ol></li></ol> <ol><li>Polyvagal theory was developed by Stephen xPorges -- Ph.D. in psychology over the last 20 years -- writes in an academic way.  </li><li>Relying heavily on the work of Deb Dana Licensed Clinical Social worker and a great writer and speaker - translates him so well  <ol><li>Polyvagal exercises for Safety and connection -- introduction and first three chapters</li></ol></li><li> <ol><li>Polyvagal Theory and Trauma – Deb Dana  Nearly 2 hours, on YouTube</li></ol></li><li> </li><li>Deb asks this question:  What would it be like for you if your body could help you feel safe and secure, much more protected  when you start feeling scared?</li><li>Fundamental discovery:  Our nervous system is shaped by early experience and reshaped by ongoing experience -- there is connection between our nervous system and our experience.  <ol><li>Formation of connections and associations</li><li>Reshaping -- changing the way our bodies respond to stress -- breaking the old patterns, fashioning new patterns deliberately</li><li>Change is gradual  <ol><li>Fleeting moments of peace --&gt; more consistent sense of well-being, more resilience in the face of challenges, perceived threats, stress.  </li></ol></li><li> </li><li>Very much at a body level -- not ...</li></ol></li></ol>

89 Your Trauma, Your Body: Protection vs. Connection

Father Pine talks about how scheduling can harm our relationships with each other. He talks about how to strict a schedule can make us unavailable to each other as persons. Support The Show: <a href="https://mattfradd.locals.com">https://mattfradd.locals.com</a> 📖 Fr. Pine's Book: <a href="https://bit.ly/3lEsP8F">https://bit.ly/3lEsP8F</a> 🖥️ Website: <a href="https://pintswithaquinas.com/">https://pintswithaquinas.com/</a> 🟢 Rumble: <a href="https://rumble.com/c/pintswithaquinas">https://rumble.com/c/pintswithaquinas</a> 👕 Merch: <a href="https://shop.pintswithaquinas.com">https://shop.pintswithaquinas.com</a> 🚫 FREE 21 Day Detox From Porn Course: <a href="https://www.strive21.com/">https://www.strive21.com/</a> 🔵 Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/mattfradd">https://www.facebook.com/mattfradd</a> 📸 Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mattfradd">https://www.instagram.com/mattfradd</a> Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href="https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices">podcastchoices.com/adchoices</a>

Is Your Schedule KILLING Your Relationships?! | Fr. Gregory Pine, O.P.

If you hope to reach Heaven, you need a clear plan. This practical guide gives you the tools to live the gospel daily, grow in virtue, follow God’s will, and find true happiness now and forever. With inspiring examples and simple steps, you’ll learn how to pray well, fight sin, love more deeply, and fix your eyes on your eternal reward.

Straight to Heaven | eBook

Homily from the Fourth Sunday of Advent. Emmanuel. God is working with us to save the world. God does not need us. But He has demonstrated that He does not want to heal, transform, or save the world without our help. He only needs us to be the kind of people who are willing and able.<dl style="margin : 0; padding-top:0;"><dt style="font-weight:normal;"> Mass Readings from December 22, 2019:</dt><dt style="font-weight:normal;"> Isaiah 7:10-14</dt><dt style="font-weight:normal;"> Psalms 24:1-6</dt><dt style="font-weight:normal;">Romans 1:1-7</dt> Matthew 1:18-24

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Distributism, Memory, and Evidentialism (Dr. Alex Plato) | Ep. 462

This lecture was given on December 15th, 2023, at The Dominican House of Studies. For more information on upcoming events, visit us at <a href="https://thomisticinstitute.org/upcoming-events" target="_blank">thomisticinstitute.org/upcoming-events</a>. About the Speaker: Fr. Thomas Joseph White is the Rector Magnificus of the Pontifical University of St. Thomas (Angelicum) in Rome. Originally a native of southeastern Georgia in the US, Fr. White studied at Brown University, where he converted to Catholicism. He did his doctoral studies in theology at Oxford University, and is the author of various books and articles including Wisdom in the Face of Modernity: A Study in Thomistic Natural Theology (Sapientia Press, 2011), The Incarnate Lord, A Thomistic Study in Christology (The Catholic University of America Press, 2015) Exodus (Brazos Press, 2016), The Light of Christ: An Introduction to Catholicism (Catholic University Press, 2017), and The Trinity: On the Nature and Mystery of the One God (Catholic University Press, 2022). He is co-editor of the journal Nova et Vetera, a Distinguished Scholar of the McDonald Agape Foundation, and a member of the Pontifical Academy of St. Thomas Aquinas.&nbsp;

Why We Need Grace | Thomas Joseph White, O.P.

Fr. Mike continues to explain the parables Christ recites in Jerusalem, specifically focusing on the dangers of preaching God&#39;s Word without practicing it in our lives. Jesus goes on to speak against the Scribes and Pharisees, reminding us that he&#39;s not only the Prince of Peace, but the Way and the Truth. Today&#39;s readings are Matthew 22-24 and Proverbs 19:17-20.

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Day 264: Preaching Without Practice (2025)

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3 Ways to Make Better FRIENDSHIPS! | Fr. Gregory Pine, O.P.

Words Have Power In this episode we talk about how words have incredible power to either bless or curse, to build up or tear down. We talk about how social media can be a place of connection, but also a place where we quickly forget to treat people with dignity. The truth that our words have power to restore, heal, be prophetic is something that can challenge us to be more discerning about how we speak and take the lead by being people who bless others. Sister Miriam's one thing - A gift of a handmade journal made by Magdelena. Thank you so much! Michelle's one thing - The Steubenville Encounter Conference in Dallas Heather's one thing - The podcast <a href= "https://media.ascensionpress.com/category/ascension-podcasts/every-knee-shall-bow/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer" data-saferedirecturl= "https://www.google.com/url?q=https://media.ascensionpress.com/category/ascension-podcasts/every-knee-shall-bow/&source=gmail&ust=1568484492153000&usg=AFQjCNFT6PREWop9qF0dpGcmbgl5KemO6A"> "Every Knee Shall Bow"</a> on the Ascension website Discussion questions: <ol> <li dir="ltr"> What struck you from the podcast? </li> <li dir="ltr"> When have you witnessed the desire to be right as more important than caring for and respecting another person? Is this something you have struggled with? </li> <li dir="ltr"> What would it look like if we all started intentionally offering life giving words to those around us instead of criticism, negative humor, and harshness? </li> <li dir="ltr"> How might God be calling you to speak goodness and blessing to someone in your life? </li> </ol> Journal Questions: <ol> <li dir="ltr"> What type of patterns have you gotten into with not using your words to bring life? </li> <li dir="ltr"> Is the Holy Spirit asking you to go back and ask forgiveness from someone who you have hurt with your words? </li> <li dir="ltr"> Take time to reflect on how you speak to others, your tone and your words. How do you think other people feel when you speak to them? </li> </ol> Quote to Ponder: "Do not accept anything as truth that lacks love and do not accept anything as love that lacks truth. One without the other is a destructive lie" - St Teresa Benedicta of the Cross Scripture for Lectio Divina - Proverbs 16:24 "Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body."

S06 Episode 2: Words Have Power

Join Fr. Jacob and Fr. Mike as they explore the power of the stories we tell—about others and ourselves. Inspired by Ignatius’ Annotation 22 and Fr. Jacob’s recent read, Viper’s Tangle, this thought-provoking discussion dives into how our perceptions shape relationships, influence motives, and impact the narratives others create about us and our narratives about others.

The Stories We Tell

Fr. Mike points out how Jehu followed God half-way, but God wants us to follow Him with our whole hearts. He also explains the prophecy of Amos, who is trying to call people back to the Lord before it is too late. The readings for today are 2 Kings 10, Amos 1-3, and Psalm 110.

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Day 178: Called Back (2024)

We begin our examination of the sacrament of Confirmation. Fr. Mike emphasizes that the reception of Confirmation is necessary for the completion and strengthening of baptismal grace. He also highlights the vital importance of the reception of Confirmation because it gives us the power to be a witness to God’s grace on earth, just as the Apostles received that same power at Pentecost. Today’s readings are Catechism paragraphs 1285-1289.

This episode has been found to be in conformity with the Catechism by the Institute on the Catechism, under the Subcommittee on the Catechism, USCCB.

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Day 175: Introduction to Confirmation (2025)

Fr. Mike and Fr. Sean's conversation is inspired by 1 Thessalonians 2:7-19. Fr. Mike talks about viewing the church as our Mother and the virtues and similarities shared between the two.

Rest In Your Mother's Arms

I'm doing something different today. I want to share with you a debate between Catholic apologist Patrick Madrid and Protestant apologist James White on the topic of Sola Scriptura. This debate took place in 1993—I was just 10 years old!! Watch as James White argues that Christians should view the Bible as the sole, infallible rule of faith. And then watch as Patrick Madrid counters with the Catholic view on the Bible's role in our faith lives. This debate sent SHOCKWAVES through the Christian church in 1993, and I think it's just as powerful today as it was back then. Big thanks to Pat Madrid for letting us share it. 🔴 Check out Patrick Madrid's assessment of the debate in this article: <a href="https://www.catholic.com/magazine/print-edition/the-white-mans-burden"> https://www.catholic.com/magazine/print-edition/the-white-mans-burden</a> Enjoy! SPONSORS EL Investments: <a href="https://www.elinvestments.net/pints">https://www.elinvestments.net/pints</a> Exodus 90: <a href="https://exodus90.com/mattfradd/">https://exodus90.com/mattfradd/</a> Hallow: <a href="http://hallow.app/mattfradd">http://hallow.app/mattfradd</a> STRIVE: <a href="https://www.strive21.com/">https://www.strive21.com/</a> GIVING Patreon: <a href="https://www.patreon.com/mattfradd">https://www.patreon.com/mattfradd</a> This show (and all the plans we have in store) wouldn't be possible without you. I can't thank those of you who support me enough. Seriously! Thanks for essentially being a co-producer coproducer of the show. LINKS Website: <a href="https://pintswithaquinas.com/">https://pintswithaquinas.com/</a> Merch: <a href="https://teespring.com/stores/matt-fradd">https://teespring.com/stores/matt-fradd</a> FREE 21 Day Detox From Porn Course: https://www.strive21.com/ SOCIAL Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/mattfradd">https://www.facebook.com/mattfradd</a> Twitter: <a href="https://twitter.com/mattfradd">https://twitter.com/mattfradd</a> Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mattfradd MY BOOKS Does God Exist: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Does-God-Exist...">https://www.amazon.com/Does-God-Exist...</a> Marian Consecration With Aquinas: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Marian-Consecr...">https://www.amazon.com/Marian-Consecr...</a> The Porn Myth: https://www.ignatius.com/The-Porn-Myt... CONTACT Book me to speak: <a href="https://www.mattfradd.com/speakerrequ...">https://www.mattfradd.com/speakerrequ...</a> -- Website - mattfradd.com Facebook - facebook.com/mattfradd/ Twitter - twitter.com/mattfradd Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href="https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices">podcastchoices.com/adchoices</a>

An EPIC Debate on Sola Scriptura w/ Patrick Madrid & James White

God made the world—and you—on purpose. What is that purpose? Well, that’s what St. John Paul II went to great lengths to explain in his Theology of the Body talks, which Fr. Mike sums up beautifully in this episode. With profound simplicity, Fr. Mike—inspired by St. John Paul II—shares the fundamental truths of this ingenious vision of humanity and sexuality. Made in God’s image and likeness, you are your body, and you are made for love. What you do with your body matters. You’ll have to watch the video to get the last and most powerful point. It’s amazing.<a rel="payment" href="https://ascensionpress.com/products/support-ascension">Support The Fr. Mike Schmitz Catholic Podcast</a>

Why God Gave Us Bodies

Drawing from newly opened Vatican archives, Johan Ickx reveals Pope Pius XII's covert efforts to save Jews during World War II. This book uncovers secret diplomatic actions, condemnations of totalitarianism, and the organization of emergency baptisms to protect thousands from deportation. It sheds light on the Pope's discreet strategies and the courageous network that risked everything to rescue the persecuted.

The Pope’s Cabinet | eBook

Today we'll be discussing the 7 deadly sins. In particular I'll be drawing from a famous work of Pope St. Gregory the Great entitled The Books of the Morals: An Exposition on the Book of Blessed Job. The work is often cited in St. Thomas Aquinas in the Summa Theologiae when he talks about vice and virtue --- Thanks to the following awesome people who are supporting Pints With Aquinas on Patreon: Jack Buss! ... You're the man, Jack. Tim Davolt, Chris Reintjes, Tom Dickson, David Young, Andrew Kener, Desirae Sifuentes, and Sean McNicholl. James Boehmler, Laura Suttenfield, John Hipp, Kathleen Cory, Sarah Jacobs, Fernando Enrile, Travis Headly, Matthew Lafitte, Russell T Potee III, Jed Florstat, Phillip Hadden, and Katie Kuchar, Tom Clark, Ben Blythe, Trevor Sorensen, Russell Potee III, James Governale, Benjamin Morris, and John Droesch. SPONSORS EL Investments: <a href="https://www.elinvestments.net/pints">https://www.elinvestments.net/pints</a> Exodus 90: <a href="https://exodus90.com/mattfradd/">https://exodus90.com/mattfradd/</a> Hallow: <a href="http://hallow.app/mattfradd">http://hallow.app/mattfradd</a> STRIVE: <a href="https://www.strive21.com/">https://www.strive21.com/</a> GIVING Patreon: <a href="https://www.patreon.com/mattfradd">https://www.patreon.com/mattfradd</a> This show (and all the plans we have in store) wouldn't be possible without you. I can't thank those of you who support me enough. Seriously! Thanks for essentially being a co-producer coproducer of the show. LINKS Website: <a href="https://pintswithaquinas.com/">https://pintswithaquinas.com/</a> Merch: <a href="https://teespring.com/stores/matt-fradd">https://teespring.com/stores/matt-fradd</a> FREE 21 Day Detox From Porn Course: <a href="https://www.strive21.com/">https://www.strive21.com/</a> SOCIAL Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/mattfradd">https://www.facebook.com/mattfradd</a> Twitter: <a href="https://twitter.com/mattfradd">https://twitter.com/mattfradd</a> Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mattfradd">https://www.instagram.com/mattfradd</a> MY BOOKS Does God Exist: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Does-God-Exist-Socratic-Dialogue-ebook/dp/B081ZGYJW3/ref=sr_1_9?dchild=1&amp;keywords=fradd&amp;qid=1586377974&amp;sr=8-9">https://www.amazon.com/Does-God-Exist-Socratic-Dialogue-ebook/dp/B081ZGYJW3/ref=sr_1_9?dchild=1&amp;keywords=fradd&amp;qid=1586377974&amp;sr=8-9</a> Marian Consecration With Aquinas: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Marian-Consecration-Aquinas-Growing-Closer-ebook/dp/B083XRQMTF/ref=sr_1_4?dchild=1&amp;keywords=fradd&amp;qid=1586379026&amp;sr=8-4">https://www.amazon.com/Marian-Consecration-Aquinas-Growing-Closer-ebook/dp/B083XRQMTF/ref=sr_1_4?dchild=1&amp;keywords=fradd&amp;qid=1586379026&amp;sr=8-4</a> The Porn Myth: <a href="https://www.ignatius.com/The-Porn-Myth-P1985.aspx">https://www.ignatius.com/The-Porn-Myth-P1985.aspx</a> CONTACT Book me to speak: <a href="https://www.mattfradd.com/speakerrequestform">https://www.mattfradd.com/speakerrequestform</a> Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href="https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices">podcastchoices.com/adchoices</a>

70: What are the 7 deadly sins? (Part 2)

Fr. Mike is honest about why it’s so hard for us to make friends. A necessity for friendship is time, something that many of us simply don’t have. More than that, true friendship requires a painful level of vulnerability and transparency. When asking yourself who you are willing to be friends with, you’re really asking “Who are you willing to give access to your wounds?” 

With that in mind, consider what Jesus said:

“No longer do I call you servants, for the servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all that I have heard from my Father I have made known to you” (John 15:15).

How much time do you spend with Jesus? Will you give him access to your wounds? This is afterall what it means to be a friend. Are you a friend of Jesus?<a rel="payment" href="https://ascensionpress.com/products/support-ascension">Support The Fr. Mike Schmitz Catholic Podcast</a>

Why Is It So Hard to Make Friends?

Please support Pints With Aquinas here: <a href="https://www.patreon.com/mattfradd">https://www.patreon.com/mattfradd</a> See full transcript of today's who at: http://pintswithaquinas.com/podcast/aquinas-advice-on-how-to-order-your-life/ The prayer we read from today: Prayer for the Wise Ordering of One's Life (Written by Thomas Aquinas, tranlated by Paul Murray OP, from his excellent book Aquinas at Prayer: The Bible, Mysticism, and Poetry.) O merciful God, whatever is pleasing to you, may I ardently desire, wisely pursue, truly recognize, and bring to perfect completion. For the praise and glory of your name put order into my life, and grant that I may know what it is you require me to do, and help me to achieve whatever is fitting and necessary for the good of my soul. May my way, Lord, be yours entirely, upright and perfect, failing in neither prosperity nor adversity so that, in prosperity, I give you thanks, and in adversity serve patients, neither exalted in the former not dejected in the latter. May I not rejoice in anything unless it leads me to you, nor be saddened by anything unless it turns me from you. May I not desire to please or fear to displease anyone but you. May all passing things become worthless to me on your account, and all things that are yours be dear to me, and you, God, above all things. May all joy without you leave me tired and weary, And may I not desire anything apart from you. May all work that is done for you delight me, Lord, and all repose not centered on your presence be wearisome. Let me, my God, direct my heart to you often and let me grieve over my failure with determination to change. 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125: How to order your life, with Fr. Ryan Mann

The Catechism reveals the theological virtues of faith, hope, and love as additional “wellsprings” of prayer for us to connect with the Father. Fr. Mike explains that we must enter into prayer with faith, pray in hope, and love as God loves us. Fr. Mike also addresses the Catechism&#39;s view on praying in the present, not looking at the past or future. Today’s readings are Catechism paragraphs 2656-2662. 

This episode has been found to be in conformity with the Catechism by the Institute on the Catechism, under the Subcommittee on the Catechism, USCCB.

For the complete reading plan, visit ascensionpress.com/ciy

Please note: The Catechism of the Catholic Church contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children - parental discretion is advised.