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<ol><li>Summary:  Join Dr. Peter as he explains how trauma impacts our bodies, through the lens of polyvagal theory. Through quotes, examples, questions for reflection and experiential exercises, Dr. Peter walks you through a current understanding of how large a role our bodies have in our experience of trauma.  </li><li>Introduction  <ol><li>I am Dr. Peter Malinoski, clinical psychologist, bringing to you, my listener the best of psychology and human formation and harmonizing it with our Catholic Faith</li></ol></li><li> <ol><li>This is the Interior Integration for Catholics podcast -- you are part of it, right here, right now and I am glad to be with you.  This podcast is part of our broader outreach, Souls and Hearts bringing the best of psychology grounded in a Catholic worldview to you and the rest of the world through our website soulsandhearts.com -- we have vibrant communities, we have courses, we have podcasts, we have blogs and shows, all kinds of resources at soulsandhearts.com, check it out.  </li></ol></li><li> <ol><li>Trauma.  Last month, we began a whole series of episodes on trauma -- such an important topic  <ol><li>Quote from trauma therapist and research Peter Levine:  “Trauma is perhaps the most avoided, ignored, belittled, denied, misunderstood, and untreated cause of human suffering.” – Peter Levine</li></ol></li><li> </li></ol></li><li> <ol><li>We started with an overview of the best of the secular understandings of trauma.  In that first episode in the series, number 88, we got into the definitions of trauma and attachment injuries, and we dived into the experience of trauma -- what trauma is like.  </li></ol></li><li> <ol><li>That sets us up for today's episode, number 89 -- Your Trauma, Your Body:  Protection vs. Connection.  Today, we are getting into the body's response to trauma, really focusing in on what happens in our nervous system.  What happens in the brain, what happens in our spinal cord and our nerves and throughout our bodies  <ol><li>We will be especially tuning into our own nervous system.   </li></ol></li><li> </li></ol></li><li> <ol><li>There's going to be some vocabulary here, I will help you with that. There will some big words, but I am going to walk you through the concepts and make them easier to understand. </li></ol></li><li> <ol><li>In the past two decades we have learned so much about how trauma impacts the body -- the physiological effects of trauma <ol><li>So what is physiological?  Physiology  <ol><li>the branch of biology that deals with the normal functions of living organisms and their parts  <ol><li>organ systems, individual organs, cells, and right down to the level of biomolecules</li></ol></li><li> <ol><li>The parts within us carry out the chemical, electrical and physical functions within our bodies.  Our bodies are living systems</li></ol></li><li> </li></ol></li><li> <ol><li>Put simply, physiology is the study of how the human body works</li></ol></li><li> <ol><li>Today we are looking at how trauma impacts physiology -- how trauma affects the workings of our body, especially in our nervous system.  </li></ol></li><li> </li></ol></li></ol></li><li> <ol><li>Lots of misconceptions out there.  <ol><li>Old way of understanding stress -- what I learned in graduate school.  Most prominent.  <ol><li>You were either stressed or not stressed</li><li>fight or flight or rest and digest</li><li>Stress on or stress off.  No nuance, very simple way of understanding</li></ol></li><li>Today, we are going to do much better than that, go much deeper than that.  </li></ol></li></ol></li><li>Review: Definition of Trauma <ol><li>Integrated Listening Systems <a href="https://integratedlistening.com/what-is-trauma/">website</a>:  Trauma is the response to a deeply distressing or disturbing event that overwhelms an individual’s ability to cope, causes feelings of helplessness, diminishes their sense of self and their ability to feel a full range of emotions and experiences.</li><li>from Duros and Crowley 2014:  …what happens to a person where this is either too much too soon, too much too long, or not enough for too long.  </li><li>From Stephen Porges:  Trauma is a chronic disruption of connectedness.  </li></ol></li><li>Most clients come to therapy for one main reason.  One main, overarching reason.  They are dysregulated.  What does that mean?  They are poorly regulated.  <ol><li>Overwhelmed with emotion or on the other side, Emotional shutdowns, numbing out</li><li>Can't control their thoughts, so distracted, intrusive thoughts, ruminations, racing thoughts, obsessions, disorientation, having a sense that their thoughts are no longer under control</li><li>Impulses -- rising up</li><li>Intrusive memories</li><li>They are having trouble keeping it together</li><li>High reactivity</li><li>Mood swings</li><li>Anger management issues</li><li>Intense depression</li><li>Feeling unreal, depersonalized, not myself, identity issues -- don't know who I am</li><li>Feeling fragile, vulnerable, about to fall apart</li><li>In one word, they come in to therapy because they can't manage their lives well anymore and they feel losing control and that makes them feel unsafe and scared.  </li></ol></li><li>Polyvagal theory -- <ol><li>Great discoveries in recent years about the vagus nerve.  <ol><li>The vagus nerve is responsible for the regulation of internal organ functions, such as digestion, heart rate, and respiratory rate, as well as vasomotor activity, and certain reflex actions, such as coughing, sneezing, swallowing, and vomiting</li><li>10th of 12 cranial nerves -- On Old Olympus Towering Top, a Finn and German Viewed Some Hops.  Memorizing the cranial nerves</li><li>Longest nerve of the body, and the most complex, it branches into 11 different directions.  </li><li>Responsible for slowing down all the organs from the next down to the colon.  Parasympathetic response -- slowing or shutting down.  </li><li>Responsible  <ol><li>Heart rate</li></ol></li><li> <ol><li>Digestion</li></ol></li><li> <ol><li>Breathing</li></ol></li><li> <ol><li>Sweating</li></ol></li><li> <ol><li>Motor functions for the muscles needed for swallowing and speech</li></ol></li><li> <ol><li>Reflex actions, such as coughing, sneezing swallowing and vomiting</li></ol></li><li> </li></ol></li></ol></li></ol> <ol><li>Polyvagal theory was developed by Stephen xPorges -- Ph.D. in psychology over the last 20 years -- writes in an academic way.  </li><li>Relying heavily on the work of Deb Dana Licensed Clinical Social worker and a great writer and speaker - translates him so well  <ol><li>Polyvagal exercises for Safety and connection -- introduction and first three chapters</li></ol></li><li> <ol><li>Polyvagal Theory and Trauma – Deb Dana  Nearly 2 hours, on YouTube</li></ol></li><li> </li><li>Deb asks this question:  What would it be like for you if your body could help you feel safe and secure, much more protected  when you start feeling scared?</li><li>Fundamental discovery:  Our nervous system is shaped by early experience and reshaped by ongoing experience -- there is connection between our nervous system and our experience.  <ol><li>Formation of connections and associations</li><li>Reshaping -- changing the way our bodies respond to stress -- breaking the old patterns, fashioning new patterns deliberately</li><li>Change is gradual  <ol><li>Fleeting moments of peace --&gt; more consistent sense of well-being, more resilience in the face of challenges, perceived threats, stress.  </li></ol></li><li> </li><li>Very much at a body level -- not ...</li></ol></li></ol>

89 Your Trauma, Your Body: Protection vs. Connection

Father Pine talks about how scheduling can harm our relationships with each other. He talks about how to strict a schedule can make us unavailable to each other as persons. Support The Show: <a href="https://mattfradd.locals.com">https://mattfradd.locals.com</a> 📖 Fr. Pine's Book: <a href="https://bit.ly/3lEsP8F">https://bit.ly/3lEsP8F</a> 🖥️ Website: <a href="https://pintswithaquinas.com/">https://pintswithaquinas.com/</a> 🟢 Rumble: <a href="https://rumble.com/c/pintswithaquinas">https://rumble.com/c/pintswithaquinas</a> 👕 Merch: <a href="https://shop.pintswithaquinas.com">https://shop.pintswithaquinas.com</a> 🚫 FREE 21 Day Detox From Porn Course: <a href="https://www.strive21.com/">https://www.strive21.com/</a> 🔵 Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/mattfradd">https://www.facebook.com/mattfradd</a> 📸 Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mattfradd">https://www.instagram.com/mattfradd</a> Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href="https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices">podcastchoices.com/adchoices</a>

Is Your Schedule KILLING Your Relationships?! | Fr. Gregory Pine, O.P.

If you hope to reach Heaven, you need a clear plan. This practical guide gives you the tools to live the gospel daily, grow in virtue, follow God’s will, and find true happiness now and forever. With inspiring examples and simple steps, you’ll learn how to pray well, fight sin, love more deeply, and fix your eyes on your eternal reward.

Straight to Heaven | eBook

Homily from the Fourth Sunday of Advent. Emmanuel. God is working with us to save the world. God does not need us. But He has demonstrated that He does not want to heal, transform, or save the world without our help. He only needs us to be the kind of people who are willing and able.<dl style="margin : 0; padding-top:0;"><dt style="font-weight:normal;"> Mass Readings from December 22, 2019:</dt><dt style="font-weight:normal;"> Isaiah 7:10-14</dt><dt style="font-weight:normal;"> Psalms 24:1-6</dt><dt style="font-weight:normal;">Romans 1:1-7</dt> Matthew 1:18-24

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Distributism, Memory, and Evidentialism (Dr. Alex Plato) | Ep. 462

This lecture was given on December 15th, 2023, at The Dominican House of Studies. For more information on upcoming events, visit us at <a href="https://thomisticinstitute.org/upcoming-events" target="_blank">thomisticinstitute.org/upcoming-events</a>. About the Speaker: Fr. Thomas Joseph White is the Rector Magnificus of the Pontifical University of St. Thomas (Angelicum) in Rome. Originally a native of southeastern Georgia in the US, Fr. White studied at Brown University, where he converted to Catholicism. He did his doctoral studies in theology at Oxford University, and is the author of various books and articles including Wisdom in the Face of Modernity: A Study in Thomistic Natural Theology (Sapientia Press, 2011), The Incarnate Lord, A Thomistic Study in Christology (The Catholic University of America Press, 2015) Exodus (Brazos Press, 2016), The Light of Christ: An Introduction to Catholicism (Catholic University Press, 2017), and The Trinity: On the Nature and Mystery of the One God (Catholic University Press, 2022). He is co-editor of the journal Nova et Vetera, a Distinguished Scholar of the McDonald Agape Foundation, and a member of the Pontifical Academy of St. Thomas Aquinas.&nbsp;

Why We Need Grace | Thomas Joseph White, O.P.

Fr. Mike continues to explain the parables Christ recites in Jerusalem, specifically focusing on the dangers of preaching God&#39;s Word without practicing it in our lives. Jesus goes on to speak against the Scribes and Pharisees, reminding us that he&#39;s not only the Prince of Peace, but the Way and the Truth. Today&#39;s readings are Matthew 22-24 and Proverbs 19:17-20.

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Day 264: Preaching Without Practice (2025)

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3 Ways to Make Better FRIENDSHIPS! | Fr. Gregory Pine, O.P.

Words Have Power In this episode we talk about how words have incredible power to either bless or curse, to build up or tear down. We talk about how social media can be a place of connection, but also a place where we quickly forget to treat people with dignity. The truth that our words have power to restore, heal, be prophetic is something that can challenge us to be more discerning about how we speak and take the lead by being people who bless others. Sister Miriam's one thing - A gift of a handmade journal made by Magdelena. Thank you so much! Michelle's one thing - The Steubenville Encounter Conference in Dallas Heather's one thing - The podcast <a href= "https://media.ascensionpress.com/category/ascension-podcasts/every-knee-shall-bow/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer" data-saferedirecturl= "https://www.google.com/url?q=https://media.ascensionpress.com/category/ascension-podcasts/every-knee-shall-bow/&source=gmail&ust=1568484492153000&usg=AFQjCNFT6PREWop9qF0dpGcmbgl5KemO6A"> "Every Knee Shall Bow"</a> on the Ascension website Discussion questions: <ol> <li dir="ltr"> What struck you from the podcast? </li> <li dir="ltr"> When have you witnessed the desire to be right as more important than caring for and respecting another person? Is this something you have struggled with? </li> <li dir="ltr"> What would it look like if we all started intentionally offering life giving words to those around us instead of criticism, negative humor, and harshness? </li> <li dir="ltr"> How might God be calling you to speak goodness and blessing to someone in your life? </li> </ol> Journal Questions: <ol> <li dir="ltr"> What type of patterns have you gotten into with not using your words to bring life? </li> <li dir="ltr"> Is the Holy Spirit asking you to go back and ask forgiveness from someone who you have hurt with your words? </li> <li dir="ltr"> Take time to reflect on how you speak to others, your tone and your words. How do you think other people feel when you speak to them? </li> </ol> Quote to Ponder: "Do not accept anything as truth that lacks love and do not accept anything as love that lacks truth. One without the other is a destructive lie" - St Teresa Benedicta of the Cross Scripture for Lectio Divina - Proverbs 16:24 "Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body."

S06 Episode 2: Words Have Power

Join Fr. Jacob and Fr. Mike as they explore the power of the stories we tell—about others and ourselves. Inspired by Ignatius’ Annotation 22 and Fr. Jacob’s recent read, Viper’s Tangle, this thought-provoking discussion dives into how our perceptions shape relationships, influence motives, and impact the narratives others create about us and our narratives about others.

The Stories We Tell

Fr. Mike points out how Jehu followed God half-way, but God wants us to follow Him with our whole hearts. He also explains the prophecy of Amos, who is trying to call people back to the Lord before it is too late. The readings for today are 2 Kings 10, Amos 1-3, and Psalm 110.

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Day 178: Called Back (2024)

We begin our examination of the sacrament of Confirmation. Fr. Mike emphasizes that the reception of Confirmation is necessary for the completion and strengthening of baptismal grace. He also highlights the vital importance of the reception of Confirmation because it gives us the power to be a witness to God’s grace on earth, just as the Apostles received that same power at Pentecost. Today’s readings are Catechism paragraphs 1285-1289.

This episode has been found to be in conformity with the Catechism by the Institute on the Catechism, under the Subcommittee on the Catechism, USCCB.

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Day 175: Introduction to Confirmation (2025)

Fr. Mike and Fr. Sean's conversation is inspired by 1 Thessalonians 2:7-19. Fr. Mike talks about viewing the church as our Mother and the virtues and similarities shared between the two.

Rest In Your Mother's Arms

I'm doing something different today. I want to share with you a debate between Catholic apologist Patrick Madrid and Protestant apologist James White on the topic of Sola Scriptura. This debate took place in 1993—I was just 10 years old!! Watch as James White argues that Christians should view the Bible as the sole, infallible rule of faith. And then watch as Patrick Madrid counters with the Catholic view on the Bible's role in our faith lives. This debate sent SHOCKWAVES through the Christian church in 1993, and I think it's just as powerful today as it was back then. Big thanks to Pat Madrid for letting us share it. 🔴 Check out Patrick Madrid's assessment of the debate in this article: <a href="https://www.catholic.com/magazine/print-edition/the-white-mans-burden"> https://www.catholic.com/magazine/print-edition/the-white-mans-burden</a> Enjoy! SPONSORS EL Investments: <a href="https://www.elinvestments.net/pints">https://www.elinvestments.net/pints</a> Exodus 90: <a href="https://exodus90.com/mattfradd/">https://exodus90.com/mattfradd/</a> Hallow: <a href="http://hallow.app/mattfradd">http://hallow.app/mattfradd</a> STRIVE: <a href="https://www.strive21.com/">https://www.strive21.com/</a> GIVING Patreon: <a href="https://www.patreon.com/mattfradd">https://www.patreon.com/mattfradd</a> This show (and all the plans we have in store) wouldn't be possible without you. I can't thank those of you who support me enough. Seriously! Thanks for essentially being a co-producer coproducer of the show. LINKS Website: <a href="https://pintswithaquinas.com/">https://pintswithaquinas.com/</a> Merch: <a href="https://teespring.com/stores/matt-fradd">https://teespring.com/stores/matt-fradd</a> FREE 21 Day Detox From Porn Course: https://www.strive21.com/ SOCIAL Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/mattfradd">https://www.facebook.com/mattfradd</a> Twitter: <a href="https://twitter.com/mattfradd">https://twitter.com/mattfradd</a> Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mattfradd MY BOOKS Does God Exist: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Does-God-Exist...">https://www.amazon.com/Does-God-Exist...</a> Marian Consecration With Aquinas: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Marian-Consecr...">https://www.amazon.com/Marian-Consecr...</a> The Porn Myth: https://www.ignatius.com/The-Porn-Myt... CONTACT Book me to speak: <a href="https://www.mattfradd.com/speakerrequ...">https://www.mattfradd.com/speakerrequ...</a> -- Website - mattfradd.com Facebook - facebook.com/mattfradd/ Twitter - twitter.com/mattfradd Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href="https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices">podcastchoices.com/adchoices</a>

An EPIC Debate on Sola Scriptura w/ Patrick Madrid & James White

God made the world—and you—on purpose. What is that purpose? Well, that’s what St. John Paul II went to great lengths to explain in his Theology of the Body talks, which Fr. Mike sums up beautifully in this episode. With profound simplicity, Fr. Mike—inspired by St. John Paul II—shares the fundamental truths of this ingenious vision of humanity and sexuality. Made in God’s image and likeness, you are your body, and you are made for love. What you do with your body matters. You’ll have to watch the video to get the last and most powerful point. It’s amazing.<a rel="payment" href="https://ascensionpress.com/products/support-ascension">Support The Fr. Mike Schmitz Catholic Podcast</a>

Why God Gave Us Bodies

Drawing from newly opened Vatican archives, Johan Ickx reveals Pope Pius XII's covert efforts to save Jews during World War II. This book uncovers secret diplomatic actions, condemnations of totalitarianism, and the organization of emergency baptisms to protect thousands from deportation. It sheds light on the Pope's discreet strategies and the courageous network that risked everything to rescue the persecuted.

The Pope’s Cabinet | eBook

Today we'll be discussing the 7 deadly sins. In particular I'll be drawing from a famous work of Pope St. Gregory the Great entitled The Books of the Morals: An Exposition on the Book of Blessed Job. The work is often cited in St. Thomas Aquinas in the Summa Theologiae when he talks about vice and virtue --- Thanks to the following awesome people who are supporting Pints With Aquinas on Patreon: Jack Buss! ... You're the man, Jack. Tim Davolt, Chris Reintjes, Tom Dickson, David Young, Andrew Kener, Desirae Sifuentes, and Sean McNicholl. James Boehmler, Laura Suttenfield, John Hipp, Kathleen Cory, Sarah Jacobs, Fernando Enrile, Travis Headly, Matthew Lafitte, Russell T Potee III, Jed Florstat, Phillip Hadden, and Katie Kuchar, Tom Clark, Ben Blythe, Trevor Sorensen, Russell Potee III, James Governale, Benjamin Morris, and John Droesch. SPONSORS EL Investments: <a href="https://www.elinvestments.net/pints">https://www.elinvestments.net/pints</a> Exodus 90: <a href="https://exodus90.com/mattfradd/">https://exodus90.com/mattfradd/</a> Hallow: <a href="http://hallow.app/mattfradd">http://hallow.app/mattfradd</a> STRIVE: <a href="https://www.strive21.com/">https://www.strive21.com/</a> GIVING Patreon: <a href="https://www.patreon.com/mattfradd">https://www.patreon.com/mattfradd</a> This show (and all the plans we have in store) wouldn't be possible without you. I can't thank those of you who support me enough. Seriously! Thanks for essentially being a co-producer coproducer of the show. LINKS Website: <a href="https://pintswithaquinas.com/">https://pintswithaquinas.com/</a> Merch: <a href="https://teespring.com/stores/matt-fradd">https://teespring.com/stores/matt-fradd</a> FREE 21 Day Detox From Porn Course: <a href="https://www.strive21.com/">https://www.strive21.com/</a> SOCIAL Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/mattfradd">https://www.facebook.com/mattfradd</a> Twitter: <a href="https://twitter.com/mattfradd">https://twitter.com/mattfradd</a> Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mattfradd">https://www.instagram.com/mattfradd</a> MY BOOKS Does God Exist: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Does-God-Exist-Socratic-Dialogue-ebook/dp/B081ZGYJW3/ref=sr_1_9?dchild=1&amp;keywords=fradd&amp;qid=1586377974&amp;sr=8-9">https://www.amazon.com/Does-God-Exist-Socratic-Dialogue-ebook/dp/B081ZGYJW3/ref=sr_1_9?dchild=1&amp;keywords=fradd&amp;qid=1586377974&amp;sr=8-9</a> Marian Consecration With Aquinas: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Marian-Consecration-Aquinas-Growing-Closer-ebook/dp/B083XRQMTF/ref=sr_1_4?dchild=1&amp;keywords=fradd&amp;qid=1586379026&amp;sr=8-4">https://www.amazon.com/Marian-Consecration-Aquinas-Growing-Closer-ebook/dp/B083XRQMTF/ref=sr_1_4?dchild=1&amp;keywords=fradd&amp;qid=1586379026&amp;sr=8-4</a> The Porn Myth: <a href="https://www.ignatius.com/The-Porn-Myth-P1985.aspx">https://www.ignatius.com/The-Porn-Myth-P1985.aspx</a> CONTACT Book me to speak: <a href="https://www.mattfradd.com/speakerrequestform">https://www.mattfradd.com/speakerrequestform</a> Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href="https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices">podcastchoices.com/adchoices</a>

70: What are the 7 deadly sins? (Part 2)

Fr. Mike is honest about why it’s so hard for us to make friends. A necessity for friendship is time, something that many of us simply don’t have. More than that, true friendship requires a painful level of vulnerability and transparency. When asking yourself who you are willing to be friends with, you’re really asking “Who are you willing to give access to your wounds?” 

With that in mind, consider what Jesus said:

“No longer do I call you servants, for the servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all that I have heard from my Father I have made known to you” (John 15:15).

How much time do you spend with Jesus? Will you give him access to your wounds? This is afterall what it means to be a friend. Are you a friend of Jesus?<a rel="payment" href="https://ascensionpress.com/products/support-ascension">Support The Fr. Mike Schmitz Catholic Podcast</a>

Why Is It So Hard to Make Friends?

Please support Pints With Aquinas here: <a href="https://www.patreon.com/mattfradd">https://www.patreon.com/mattfradd</a> See full transcript of today's who at: http://pintswithaquinas.com/podcast/aquinas-advice-on-how-to-order-your-life/ The prayer we read from today: Prayer for the Wise Ordering of One's Life (Written by Thomas Aquinas, tranlated by Paul Murray OP, from his excellent book Aquinas at Prayer: The Bible, Mysticism, and Poetry.) O merciful God, whatever is pleasing to you, may I ardently desire, wisely pursue, truly recognize, and bring to perfect completion. For the praise and glory of your name put order into my life, and grant that I may know what it is you require me to do, and help me to achieve whatever is fitting and necessary for the good of my soul. May my way, Lord, be yours entirely, upright and perfect, failing in neither prosperity nor adversity so that, in prosperity, I give you thanks, and in adversity serve patients, neither exalted in the former not dejected in the latter. May I not rejoice in anything unless it leads me to you, nor be saddened by anything unless it turns me from you. May I not desire to please or fear to displease anyone but you. May all passing things become worthless to me on your account, and all things that are yours be dear to me, and you, God, above all things. May all joy without you leave me tired and weary, And may I not desire anything apart from you. May all work that is done for you delight me, Lord, and all repose not centered on your presence be wearisome. Let me, my God, direct my heart to you often and let me grieve over my failure with determination to change. Make me, my God, humble without pretense, cheerful without frivolity, sad without dejection, mature without heaviness, quick-witted without levity, truthful without duplicity. Let me fear you without despair, and hope in you without presumption. Let me correct my neighbor without hypocrisy, and without pride edify him by word and example: obedient without contradiction, patient without murmuring. Give me, dearest God, a vigilant heart which no distracting thought can lure away from you. Give me a noble heart which no unworthy desire can ever debase. Give me an unconquered heart which no tribulation can fatigue. Give me a free heart which no violent temptation can enslave. Give me an upright heart which no perverse intention can hold fast. Grant me, Lord my God, intelligence in knowing you, diligence in seeking you, wisdom in finding you, conversation pleasing to you, perseverance in confidently waiting for you, and confidence in finally embracing you. Grant that as penance I may be afflicted with your hardships, As grace, make use along the way, of your favors, as glory, delight in your joys in the fatherland. amen SPONSORS EL Investments: <a href="https://www.elinvestments.net/pints">https://www.elinvestments.net/pints</a> Exodus 90: <a href="https://exodus90.com/mattfradd/">https://exodus90.com/mattfradd/</a> Hallow: <a href="http://hallow.app/mattfradd">http://hallow.app/mattfradd</a> STRIVE: <a href="https://www.strive21.com/">https://www.strive21.com/</a> GIVING Patreon: <a href="https://www.patreon.com/mattfradd">https://www.patreon.com/mattfradd</a> This show (and all the plans we have in store) wouldn't be possible without you. I can't thank those of you who support me enough. Seriously! Thanks for essentially being a co-producer coproducer of the show. 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125: How to order your life, with Fr. Ryan Mann

The Catechism reveals the theological virtues of faith, hope, and love as additional “wellsprings” of prayer for us to connect with the Father. Fr. Mike explains that we must enter into prayer with faith, pray in hope, and love as God loves us. Fr. Mike also addresses the Catechism&#39;s view on praying in the present, not looking at the past or future. Today’s readings are Catechism paragraphs 2656-2662. 

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Day 341: The Theological Virtues

Discover St. Thérèse’s secret to deep peace amid suffering: complete trust in God’s loving care. This gentle guide shows how surrendering fears and letting go of control opens the soul to serenity, even in life’s darkest moments. Learn to rest in the Father’s providence like a child cherished and protected, and find the freedom and calm that come when you abandon yourself fully to His love.

Abandonment to God | eBook

Homily from the Second Sunday in Ordinary Time. God has a claim on your life...and God has a call for your life. We can often be hesitant to make decisions in life. Not only because we do not want to make the wrong decision, but also because we want to make the best decision. But the point of life is not merely to optimize our happiness. We experience a new freedom and meaning when we realize that our lives are not our own...and we live to respond to God's call.<dl style="margin : 0; padding-top:0;"><dt style="font-weight:normal;"> Mass Readings from January 14, 2024:</dt><dt style="font-weight:normal;"> 1 Samuel 3:3-10, 19</dt><dt style="font-weight:normal;"> Psalms 40:2, 4, 7-10</dt><dt style="font-weight:normal;">1 Corinthians 6:13-15, 17-20</dt>John 1:35-42

01/14/24 Claimed and Called

Does silence ever feel uncomfortable? Do you fill the quiet with TV, music, or endless scrolling?

Fr. Mike explains why silence isn’t something to fear but something we desperately need, both in our daily lives and especially in prayer. While learning, entertainment, and even guided prayers can be good, true growth happens when we create space for silence and allow ourselves to hear the voice of God.<a rel="payment" href="https://ascensionpress.com/products/support-ascension">Support The Fr. Mike Schmitz Catholic Podcast</a>

How to Be Okay with Silence

Is the sign of the cross simply the intro and outro of prayer? Or, is it something more than that? Jeff Cavins discusses the importance of the sign of the cross and explains how it is, in fact, a powerful prayer. By looking through both the Old and New Testament, Jeff helps provide a deeper understanding of what it means to pray in the name of God.

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Cross That Bridge When We Get There

Thomas Aquinas can be a daunting figure to study. In this video, I'll help give you the big picture of his life and works so that YOU can begin to love Aquinas as much as I do. Download your FREE ebook, You Can Understand Aquinas here: <a href="https://pintswithaquinas.com/">https://pintswithaquinas.com/</a> and see this list of 10 books by or about Aquinas you need to read: <a href="https://pintswithaquinas.com/read-these-10-books-to-understand-and-learn-from-thomas-aquinas/"> https://pintswithaquinas.com/read-these-10-books-to-understand-and-learn-from-thomas-aquinas/</a> SPONSORS EL Investments: <a href="https://www.elinvestments.net/pints">https://www.elinvestments.net/pints </a> Hallow: <a href="http://hallow.app/mattfradd">http://hallow.app/mattfradd </a> STRIVE: <a href="https://www.strive21.com/">https://www.strive21.com/</a> Catholic Chemistry: <a href="https://www.catholicchemistry.com/?utm_source=mattfradd&amp;utm_medium=email&amp;utm_campaign=mattfradd1q&amp;utm_content=quotebanner"> https://www.catholicchemistry.com/?utm_source=mattfradd&amp;utm_medium=email&amp;utm_campaign=mattfradd1q&amp;utm_content=quotebanner</a> GIVING Patreon: <a href="https://www.patreon.com/mattfradd">https://www.patreon.com/mattfradd</a> This show (and all the plans we have in store) wouldn't be possible without you. I can't thank those of you who support me enough. Seriously! Thanks for essentially being a co-producer coproducer of the show. LINKS Website: <a href="https://pintswithaquinas.com/">https://pintswithaquinas.com/</a> Merch: <a href="https://teespring.com/stores/matt-fradd">https://teespring.com/stores/matt-fradd</a> FREE 21 Day Detox From Porn Course: <a href="https://www.strive21.com/">https://www.strive21.com/</a> SOCIAL Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/mattfradd">https://www.facebook.com/mattfradd</a> Twitter: <a href="https://twitter.com/mattfradd">https://twitter.com/mattfradd</a> Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mattfradd">https://www.instagram.com/mattfradd</a> MY BOOKS Does God Exist: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Does-God-Exist-Socratic-Dialogue-ebook/dp/B081ZGYJW3/ref=sr_1_9?dchild=1&amp;keywords=fradd&amp;qid=1586377974&amp;sr=8-9">https://www.amazon.com/Does-God-Exist-Socratic-Dialogue-ebook/dp/B081ZGYJW3/ref=sr_1_9?dchild=1&amp;keywords=fradd&amp;qid=1586377974&amp;sr=8-9</a> Marian Consecration With Aquinas: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Marian-Consecration-Aquinas-Growing-Closer-ebook/dp/B083XRQMTF/ref=sr_1_4?dchild=1&amp;keywords=fradd&amp;qid=1586379026&amp;sr=8-4">https://www.amazon.com/Marian-Consecration-Aquinas-Growing-Closer-ebook/dp/B083XRQMTF/ref=sr_1_4?dchild=1&amp;keywords=fradd&amp;qid=1586379026&amp;sr=8-4</a> The Porn Myth: <a href="https://www.ignatius.com/The-Porn-Myth-P1985.aspx">https://www.ignatius.com/The-Porn-Myth-P1985.aspx</a> CONTACT Book me to speak: <a href="https://www.mattfradd.com/speakerrequestform">https://www.mattfradd.com/speakerrequestform</a> Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href="https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices">podcastchoices.com/adchoices</a>

7 Reasons to LOVE St. Thomas Aquinas

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The Problem with Critical Race Theory (Deacon Harold Burke-Sivers) | Ep. 344

Grazing Under the Shadow of the King

The Catechism begins to explore what it means “to believe” by examining our innate desire for God and all the ways we can come to know him. Fr. Mike grounds us in a refrain he promises to repeat throughout the year—God loves you. Not in an abstract way, but in a concrete, unique way. God knows you, and he wants you to know him. Today’s readings are Catechism paragraphs 26-35. 

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Day 4: Our Capacity for God (2025)

As Fr. Mark-Mary mentioned, the friars will be taking a meaningful break to embrace the rest and the joy of the Jubilee Year. While they are away, please enjoy listening (or re-listening) to this previously released episode, and join us in continuing to pray for Fr. Mark-Mary, Fr. Innocent, Fr. Angelus, and Fr. PT as they follow God's will and heed the call of the Jubilee. The Poco a Poco podcast happens because of many generous donors, including recurring monthly donations of any amount. Thinking about helping out? You can give at https://spiritjuice.org/supportpoco. Thank you! --- What makes us most free, is this submitting to God and this dependence on Him. Yes, freedom is actually dependent on obedience rather than kind of doing whatever I want. When we fall in love with God and we experience that love, this deep interior freedom takes place and it becomes the most important thing of our lives—even to a point that is greater than our circumstances. This episode is the first part of our series on Interior Freedom by Fr. Jacque Philippe that talks about what it means to live in freedom as sons and daughters of God and how this freedom can become greater than the circumstances of our lives. We think we're most free when we can kind of be in control. "I'm free when I get to get up every day and just have control over my life and my circumstances." That's not a Catholic freedom according to Jacque Philippe, but it is actually being able to accept reality as it is. We struggle with freedom because it's hard to accept our weakness. It's quite difficult to accept our sinfulness—it's hard to accept these different parts of our lives. But if we don't accept ourselves, our realities, we either live in memories or fantasies where Jesus can't reach us. This episode is the second part of our series on Interior Freedom by Fr. Jacque Philippe that talks about and the importance of acceptance towards being truly free.

Realities Not Fantasies (2023)

In this episode of TMFS I talk to Dr. Peter Kreeft, professor of philosophy at Boston College, about his conversion to the Catholic faith, why he loves Thomas Aquinas, his thoughts about Pope Francis, Dostoevsky (obviously) and the best arguments for God and atheism ... and much else besides. --- SPONSORS EL Investments: <a href="https://www.elinvestments.net/pints">https://www.elinvestments.net/pints</a> Exodus 90: <a href="https://exodus90.com/mattfradd/">https://exodus90.com/mattfradd/</a> Hallow: <a href="http://hallow.app/mattfradd">http://hallow.app/mattfradd</a> STRIVE: <a href="https://www.strive21.com/">https://www.strive21.com/</a> GIVING Patreon: <a href="https://www.patreon.com/mattfradd">https://www.patreon.com/mattfradd</a> This show (and all the plans we have in store) wouldn't be possible without you. I can't thank those of you who support me enough. Seriously! Thanks for essentially being a co-producer coproducer of the show. LINKS Website: <a href="https://pintswithaquinas.com/">https://pintswithaquinas.com/</a> Merch: <a href="https://teespring.com/stores/matt-fradd">https://teespring.com/stores/matt-fradd</a> FREE 21 Day Detox From Porn Course: <a href="https://www.strive21.com/">https://www.strive21.com/</a> SOCIAL Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/mattfradd">https://www.facebook.com/mattfradd</a> Twitter: <a href="https://twitter.com/mattfradd">https://twitter.com/mattfradd</a> Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mattfradd">https://www.instagram.com/mattfradd</a> MY BOOKS Does God Exist: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Does-God-Exist-Socratic-Dialogue-ebook/dp/B081ZGYJW3/ref=sr_1_9?dchild=1&amp;keywords=fradd&amp;qid=1586377974&amp;sr=8-9">https://www.amazon.com/Does-God-Exist-Socratic-Dialogue-ebook/dp/B081ZGYJW3/ref=sr_1_9?dchild=1&amp;keywords=fradd&amp;qid=1586377974&amp;sr=8-9</a> Marian Consecration With Aquinas: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Marian-Consecration-Aquinas-Growing-Closer-ebook/dp/B083XRQMTF/ref=sr_1_4?dchild=1&amp;keywords=fradd&amp;qid=1586379026&amp;sr=8-4">https://www.amazon.com/Marian-Consecration-Aquinas-Growing-Closer-ebook/dp/B083XRQMTF/ref=sr_1_4?dchild=1&amp;keywords=fradd&amp;qid=1586379026&amp;sr=8-4</a> The Porn Myth: <a href="https://www.ignatius.com/The-Porn-Myth-P1985.aspx">https://www.ignatius.com/The-Porn-Myth-P1985.aspx</a> CONTACT Book me to speak: <a href="https://www.mattfradd.com/speakerrequestform">https://www.mattfradd.com/speakerrequestform</a> Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href="https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices">podcastchoices.com/adchoices</a>

BONUS | Peter Kreeft interview | The Matt Fradd Show

Homily from the Twenty-fifth Sunday in Ordinary Time. It doesn’t matter how long you live. What matters is how you live. Our lives will magnify (or highlight) something. Will they be so full of nice things that they will miss the most excellent things? Or will we be wise so that, no matter the outcome, Christ will be highlighted?<dl style="margin : 0; padding-top:0;"><dt style="font-weight:normal;"> Mass Readings from September 20, 2020:</dt><dt style="font-weight:normal;"> Isaiah 55:6-9</dt><dt style="font-weight:normal;"> Psalms 145:2-3, 8-9, 17-18</dt><dt style="font-weight:normal;">Philippians 1:20-24, 27</dt> Matthew 20:1-16 <a href="https://bulldogcatholic.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/09/how-do-i-look_-highlighter.pdf">Download the Homily Study</a>

09/20/20 How Do I Look? Highlighter

Homily from the Third Sunday in Ordinary Time. You've been given a great work, and must not come down. Since you have been made on purpose, there are two ways to live: on purpose and off purpose. But if a person has been made to be great and set apart for a purpose, why would they ever choose to live off purpose? The common culprits are distraction, forgetting, comparison, and living a shadow mission.<dl style="margin : 0; padding-top:0;"><dt style="font-weight:normal;"> Mass Readings from January 26, 2025:</dt><dt style="font-weight:normal;"> Nehemiah 8:2-6, 8-10</dt><dt style="font-weight:normal;"> Psalm 19:8, 9, 10, 15</dt><dt style="font-weight:normal;">1 Corinthians 12:12-30</dt> Luke 1:1-4; 4:14-21

01/26/25 On Purpose: Off Purpose

Things We Learned From Our Moms In this episode we honour Mother's Day and talk about some essential things we learned from our mothers. We discuss what they have taught us about joy and suffering, and how they revealed the face of God to us. We also chat about how God wants to heal and restore broken relationships with our mothers. Sister Miriam's one thing - Esther Marie Angel! Congratulations to Jackie and Bobby! Michelle's one thing - The Given Forum is doing a 4-day Online Conference! <a href= "https://giveninstitute.com/discover-the-gift/">Discover the Gift</a>, June 10-14th Heather's one thing - Salmon Wellington, so you can have one, simple, awesome-looking meal! Ingredients: 1 package puff pastry, softened to room temperature1 salmon fillet no skin, bones removed (I get mine from Costco)salt & pepper to tasteFresh lemon juiceOptional fresh dill1 egg, beaten Instructions: Preheat oven to 425 Rinse salmon and pat dry. Lightly flour a large cutting board bigger than the salmon. Roll out the puff pastry wide enough that it will cover both sides of the salmon. (Or use puff pastry sheets) Place the salmon in the middle of the pastry (the best side facing down) and season both sides with salt and pepper (optional dill) and squeeze fresh lemon juice over one side of the salmon. Fold the edges of the puff pastry over the salmon starting with the longer sides and gently press together to seal. Trim any excess pastry from the ends, then fold the ends on top of the salmon. Flip the puff pastry-wrapped salmon over and transfer for a baking sheet lined with parchment paper if you have it. Brush the beaten egg on the top and sides of the pastry. If you feel fancy, score the top of the pastry with a knife, cutting shallow diagonal lines to create a crosshatch pattern, but do not cut through. You need the pastry to be sealed with no holes if possible. Brush the top again with the egg wash. Place on middle rack of the oven. Bake for 20-25 minutes, until pastry is golden brown. I love to make this with a warm lemon dill sauce on the side, roasted potatoes and a Greek salad. Sponsor: Walking with Purpose Walking with Purpose publishes Catholic Bible studies that help women and girls open their hearts to Christ. One of the most personal and transformative studies from WWP is <a href="http://wwp.today/fearless">Fearless and Free</a>, an 11-lesson study on healing and wholeness, based on Ephesians. Fearless and Free helps you identify the lies that mess with your identity, and to replace them with the truth of Scripture. You'll discover how to get a grip on your thoughts and develop emotionally healthy habits. This is an invitation to bring your tangled, complex heart into an encounter with God's healing touch. Learn more at <a href= "http://wwp.today/fearless">http://wwp.today/fearless</a>. Click <a href= "https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfjO25e8YRjp2LHmVHgxDo5P6R7YQJJ3xt5Y6SlBfnfhLji-w/viewform"> here</a> to enter to WIN a copy of the Walking with Purpose Bible study Fearless and Free! Discussion questions: <ol> <li style="font-weight: 400;">What struck you from the podcast?</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">What have you learned from your mother that you are grateful for?</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">How has your mother taught you to suffer or handle sorrowful things?</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">What has your mother revealed to you about the face of God?</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">Who are other people in your life who have shown you Motherhood?</li> </ol> Journal Questions: <ol> <li style="font-weight: 400;">Reflect and journal about this scripture: Proverbs 31:30-31 What does it speak to you personally?</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">How well do you honor your mother? </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">In the places where your mother has not revealed the face of God to you, what is the truth of who God is?</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">Are there places in your relationship with your mother that need to be restored?</li> </ol> Quote to Ponder - "Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you." Exodus 20:12 Scripture for Lectio Divina - Proverbs 31:30-31 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.Honor her for all that her hands have done,and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.